damned if one does, damned if one doesn't
damned if one does, damned if one doesn't {adj. phr.}
No matter what one does, someone is likely to criticize one.
No matter what decisions I make, there are always some people who will approve them and those who won't. It is a classical case of "damned if I do, damned if I don't."
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Source: A Dictionary of American Idioms
