not to know whether one is coming or going not to know whether one is coming or going {v. phr.} To be completely confused. He was so perplexed he didn't know whether he was coming or going. Compare: AT SEA (2). Categories: add yours {v. phr.} Source: A Dictionary of American Idioms by A. Makkai, M.T. Boatner, J.E. Gates © 2024 To section: N Subscribe to: American IdiomsIdioms feedEnglish languageHome page and general feed Post my comment